Ever wondered why wedding planning is so hard? Could it be perhaps, that it is because of the balancing act that needs to happen between your personal interest as a couple, family interests, varying emotional temperatures and everyone’s attitudes? And doing all these while trying to maintain composure with your eyes fixed on the main goal which is to remain perfectly sane and happy on your big day? It sure does sound like a lot!
Every couple simply wants a successful run of this very important day of their lives, albeit, if there was a way to find yourself married without going through the details, most men, and I insist men, would probably jump at this opportunity as weddings are generally deemed more of a girl’s dream than it is a man’s thing. Not that they mind the marriage, I presume, but rather all the noise around the one-day ceremony; but this can be a subject for another day.
The planning is particularly a painstakingly detailed process that may not necessarily be every man’s cup of tea and that’s why ladies, or the brides, will be seen more involved in the planning process. We are not to dismiss the fact that there are grooms who are also very hands on when it comes to this matter and want to be involved as much as they possibly can in the process.
So, now that we know this, the Familyst family just wants you to enjoy the journey as much as you enjoy your wedding day since these moments will never be repeated for you and your better half.
We will highlight some key notes to factor in when planning your wedding as you also use the platform to put all this together: Important notes to planning a wedding
The very first task is to set a date and venue for your wedding. Every part of planning will revolve around these two key things. This will be the very first question you are asked by every vendor and guest at the mention of the wedding, and as you invite them to be part of it in the respective capacities. Make this the very first agenda in your thought process.
This is first articulating every item or task, as pertains to what you must do leading to the D-day to its every detail. An example would be booking the person who will officiate your wedding, finding and booking the wedding venue, finding your gown and the groom’s attire, number of guests you are looking at hosting, and the list goes on. To each item you must go ahead to indicate the timelines by when you must have accomplished each part of that particular task.
Now that you have a clear road map you can now settle on the details of theme and style as this is where you will determine exactly the look and feel of your wedding. This will further inform some of the important budgeting decisions that must be made. The theme and style are all about your fabric textures, décor, general color theme, etc. It is here that you may make decisions about how you would love your bridal party to be dressed in and so forth.
From the road map you have articulated every item and so the budgeting part is allocating how much each item will cost or you intend for it to cost. This is after price comparison has also happened as you should have indicated the shopping timelines to compare prices within your roadmap. Within this you should also determine how you are raising the funds or if you are footing the entire wedding budget yourself or as a family.
Determine who is to be in your bridal party and communicate with them in good time what you expect of them. It may seem a small task but most of the time it is here that family and friends can really be a handful to deal with. So be clear on the people you want in the team, and it is best that you stick to your plan without being persuaded or swayed by other people’s ideas.
As you plan your wedding you have probably quickly realized that you and google are the best of friends in this season as you navigate the path to marriagehood. Your references to Pinterest will be almost as often as your very heart beats; Pinterest will be closer than a brother would stick to you, whenever you are needing guidance or direction over details and inspirations.
The long and short of it is that there are tools available that can help you piece your entire journey to the very specifics of what you had envisioned. From planning layouts, drafting a mood board, wedding stationary etc. There are tools that can help you manage the process single handedly and Familyst is one of them!
To work with a planner means that in addition to the budget on the specific items there’s an extra amount that will need to go to the planner to help you coordinate the entire day. If you do this part alone the money can be directed to other budget areas.
Simply means that you have your eyes on the progress of each and everything. Nothing will escape you as you are directly in touch with every part of the planning process and the parties involved like the vendors. Whether things are going right or wrong, you are in the know at the turn of every event.
Sometimes no one will clearly understand your vision, so if you are planning on your own, you will be able to realize your day as you have envisioned it. It is not impossible to find someone who can carry out every detail of your wedding as you have probably dreamed of all your life, but what we are saying is that it will take just so much effort to get just that planner that gets you. So, it is definitely an advantage if you are the planner. You know exactly what you want!
Goes hand in hand with having your finger on the pulse as should there be any mishap, or difficulty, you will know it and in time find a solution or replacement.
You can, as a couple, make quick decisions as opposed to when there is a third party involved and the turnaround time may not be as quick. Things that may need the quickest attention may take long to be resolved and hence have a negative ripple effect. This will not be the case when you are the one planning and making decisions.
Planning on your own means you are doing all the research, footwork, as well as having meetings as you try to firm up every aspect of the wedding planning process. If you are doing all this in the middle of your normal work schedule you may find yourself too pressed for time and may even lead to frustrations or poor results in both the planning process and the work.
Normally, leading to one’s wedding you want to be more relaxed, taking on better healthy habits, with the sole reason of looking radiant, healthy and energetic on your wedding day. Well, this can easily be turned upside down if you are the ones running around to piece things together.
While you may want to plan your own wedding it’s best to engage a few people who can support you with the individual items to ease the burden to an extent. Running around the streets of Nairobi, for example, with your checklists at hand will simply run you down if you do not moderate how, you are doing things.
When there is someone planning your event, they will absorb some shock for you so that you are not the one straight in the line of fire when shots of challenges are fired, or when bumps are met up ahead the road of planning. So you may feel bouts of frustration in the case that things are not going as you would love them to go.